One-Year Left to Live – By Eva Hamori
What would you do? Where would you go? What would be important to you, and how would you spend your precious time left on earth? With friends and family or traveling to the places you have always wished to visit? Would you buy the fastest car your savings could buy and drive on the Autobahn or would you drink yourself into oblivion? All viable options but what if you weren't dying? Shouldn't we live each day as if it were our last? Why not live our best life now instead of waiting for that pivotal moment that awakens you from the day to day grind. Our auto pilot existence, where comfort and security are the bottom line of our needs, yet we ask little more from our selves. Heaven forbid we slightly move out of our comfort zone into uncomfortable change. But the question is, "Is this your life?" I know it is, but is it the dream life you couldn't wait to get too? Maybe you are stuck in a job you dislike, or a marriage that doesn't quite fit or debt you can't manage. Match your life with your true passion and everything else falls into place.
These thoughts prompted our family into the next Hamori family adventure!
Yes we have a beautiful life. Canada is a wonderful place to live. Money is not a problem. It steadily comes in and we steadily pay our bills.
I stay home with the kids. I have a support network of strong women I turn towards. Life is about what mattered to me. The causes I fight for and the people I surround myself with. I volunteer.
With me home, Alfonz didn't have to share in the day-to-day stuff, and he started to get more and more successful, and had a soft place to fall at the end of each stressful day.
But this is not just my life to live on the back of my husband, who comes home exhausted. It's his life too. And why wouldn't he deserve the same luxury of self-growth he allows for me. I am not saying that staying home is a piece of cake, and that I don't work my tail off cooking homemade meals each day, or growing a garden or teach my kids, and all the things life as a parent entails.
What I realized was being a parent was in fact my true self, being home with my babies was my life ambition, and I felt a huge reward having the time to figure that out. When I found my groove all the elements in my life started to jive. I found a passion for Montessori Education, volunteered at the children's school, started a block watch in our community and began to blog. My circle of friends grew around me with people I love and respect, people I truly learn from. So I wasn't idle eating bonbons watching soaps, I was my husband's equal partner, and my true self. As such I worked 100% of the time to the best of my ability. People seem to work much harder at the things they love. But how can we do the same for Alfonz?
Solution: A year of travel through France. With the option to buy a Gite, live there and run it. The idea is to spend as much time together as we can, while the kids are young enough to assimilate to a new culture. A land with warmer weather, 320 days of sunshine per year and a close journey to our home in Budapest. This would give our family the life we deserve, one that focuses on time currency and not just chasing the dollar.
We are preparing by learning French, since January.
The vision looks like this. Buy a large home in the Languedoc region in the South of France. Close to tourist attractions and on route to the sea. It has a garden with a large table over looking a spectacular view of the Pyrenees Mountains or rolling countryside or something of that nature. Travelers’ are around a table and I’m serving them a beautiful Sunday Coq Au Vin meal or the like with ingredients from my beautiful garden. I see a house with a kitchen that we would live in and I an adjoining house with rental suites/rooms or floors for guests to stay in. There's a swimming pool to cool down in and a beautiful vineyard. The sun is setting as our glasses toast and our life would be restful, rewarding and happy.
It's a funny thing. When we started to tell people we are moving to France, the first response is one of great disbelief. Many have dreams that seem implausible. People often wish they could move across the world to a land they visited once in there twenties that seemed perfect. Wishing to go back and live in that place that seemed unbelievably magical. And France being the most visited tourist destination in the world, I guess it's a common goal.
The difference is I happened to have married a man that no matter what I have ever suggested, as crazy as it may seem, he never said as much. He always said, "If it's that important to you, we will make it happen." And in return I give the same courtesy.
Great opportunities come along often and it really depends on character if you seize them. Our family is constantly dreaming, and wishing and improving and when something like this adventure presents itself we jump in headfirst.
If we end up back after a few months or ten months or even 2 years, at least we gave it a try.
Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all? Better to have traveled and return than to never travel at all!
So if you think we are dreaming, yes of course we are. If you think we are crazy, maybe so. But if you need a rental B&B in the South of France, give us a call.
Visit Eva Hamori's website: http://www.thatshamori.com
With preparations for Christmas well underway, I feel as though this year is the first year I've finally got it right.
